Taking a Stand On Marriage

Taking a Stand On Marriage

I got this email from my father-in-law and just had to post it here on my blog. I'm personally appalled at the blatant attack on the family and marriage as they have been defined, divinely appointed and upheld since the dawn of time. I know that God is not happy about the rampant wickedness and demoralization of His commandments and guidelines for marriage, let alone the state-invoked sanctification of homosexual unions in Massachusetts and California.

Anyway, I think this email says it best, and the tongue-in-cheek way it accomplishes its point is priceless. Enjoy.

A Scene at City Hall in San Francisco

"Next."

"Good morning. We want to apply for a marriage license."

"Names?"

“Tim and Jim Jones."

“Jones? Are you related? I see a resemblance."

"Yes, we're brothers."

"Brothers? You can't get married."

"Why not? Aren't you giving marriage licenses to same gender couples?"

"Yes, thousands. But we haven't had any siblings. That's incest!"

"Incest? No, we are not gay."

"Not gay? Then why do you want to get married?"

"For the financial benefits, of course. And we do love each other. Besides, we don't have any other prospects."

"But we're issuing marriage licenses to gay and lesbian couples who've been denied equal protection under the law. If you are not gay, you can get married to a woman."

"Wait a minute. A gay man has the same right to marry a woman as I have. But just because I'm straight doesn't mean I want to marry a woman. I want to marry Jim."

"And I want to marry Tim, Are you going to discriminate against us just because we are not gay?"

"All right, all right… I'll give you your license."

"Next."

"Hi. We are here to get married."

"Names?"

"John Smith, Jane James, Robert Green, and June Johnson."

"Who wants to marry whom?"

"We all want to marry each other."

"But there are four of you!"

"That's right. You see, we're all bisexual. I love Jane and Robert, Jane loves me and June. June loves Robert and Jane, and Robert loves June and me. All of us getting married together is the only way that we can express our sexual preferences in a marital relationship."

"But we've only been granting licenses to gay and lesbian couples."

"So you're discriminating against bisexuals!"

"No, it's just that, well, the traditional idea of marriage is that it's just for couples."

"Since when are you standing on tradition?"

"Well, I mean, you have to draw the line somewhere."

"Who says? There's no logical reason to limit marriage to couples. The more the… Besides, we demand our rights! The mayor says the constitution guarantees equal protection under the law. Give us a marriage license!"

"All right, all right.”

“Next."

"Hello, I'd like a marriage license."

"In what names?"

"David Deets."

"And the other man?"

"That's all. I want to marry myself."

"Marry yourself? What do you mean?"

"Well, my psychiatrist says I have a dual personality, so I want to marry the two together. Maybe I can file a joint income-tax return."

"That does it! I quit!! You people are making a mockery of marriage!!"

Small Disclaimer

Small Disclaimer

I really appreciate those of you that have commented on my posts and given me such great feedback. It's neat for me to see how our lives are so much better understood when we share them with each other. Go figure! :)

I do want to issue one small word of caution. As with every other Latter-day Saint that writes about their views on the gospel, I must be very clear in stating that the views expressed in this blog are all my own views and are not intended to be extrapolated into the official position of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints in any way. If there are errors, they are mine alone (please comment if you see any!). My whole purpose in sharing is to provide myself a more concrete way of expressing my thoughts and feelings about my family, the gospel and this mess we call mortality. Hopefully, my crazy life and thoughts might help someone gain a clearer understanding of their own. I know that happiness is not to be bottled up and sealed away selfishly, but shared with all I know and love… and maybe even someone I've never met.

Thanks again, and stay tuned for more adventures. I'm going to be teaching my dad's institute classes this week while he's on vacation, so that should be interesting.

A Little Better Understanding

A Little Better Understanding

Man, am I thankful that Heavenly Father knew what he was doing when he got this whole 'plan' thing rolling! Without it, I know that I would be making a complete mess of things, as this week has so graciously shown me. But, I need to give a little background before diving into the specifics.

I would hope that everyone has at least one passion in life, if for nothing more than to help you know what it feels like to want something really bad. Me, well, I think I have more than my fair share of passions. Mostly I think that I could do with a few less, or just be a little more balanced in how I approached them.

One of my passions is my family, particularly my parent's family, and doing what I can to help bring about their happiness. Everyone who knows me or my family well enough will concede that we aren't your typical family. Our family dynamic is such that, on the surface, we may appear to be almost too perfect. The perfect kids that never disrupt or fight during sacrament meeting. The perfect mother who is as close to superwoman as any woman ever has been. Or the master teacher of a father that works for the Church and blesses the lives of hundreds every day. Sounds all a little too good to be true.

And it is.

We definitely aren't perfect, and we've come a long way in being able to not only admit that, but allow people to actually see our faults. Hopefully this all doesn't come as a shock to some of you. Most of you who know me and my family will probably smile and think, "I knew it!" You get a gold star for the day. :)

My father is now the one to openly admit his failings as a parent to us kids, and, to his credit, is doing a lot to move things in a positive direction. It is his happiness that I have desperately struggled to help come to greater fruition, but often to little avail—at least on the surface. At least this passion of mine is better than my previous high school passion of trying to tick him off.

Getting to the point now (I know, FINALLY). My father's passion in life is the gospel and the teaching of it. For better or worse, it is both what he does and who he is. As you can imagine, this passion has shaped every last thing that I learned to think, see, hear and do as a child. This would have been fantastic if it weren't for his lack of patience and continual frustration with life. Like I said earlier, he admits to all this in full just as I admit to being a royal pain in the rear as a teen, and we have grown in our relationship and understanding from talking about these things. The hard part of all this has been learning how to re-learn and re-apply gospel truths and principles through a clearer, more loving and kind lens (thanks Kristen!) and becoming who I always wanted to be without going off in a semi-skewed perspective.

If this is your first time reading my blog, then you haven't been introduced to some of the re-learned concepts I'm referring to. If you're a more frequent visitor, then this should shed a little light onto my reasons and perspectives in my writing.

Anyway, having been blessed with a second chance at the gospel over the past few years, I have since become acutely aware of just how much more joy and happiness are possible, and just how far from that my dad seems most of the time. So, my passion for my family's happiness tends to do some hostile takeovers at times, usually pushing me to do or say things that are intended to help but end up just missing the mark. Such is the case of the past 2 weeks.

Without going into too many details, for some of them are both sacred to me as well as personal between me and my dad, I'll explain what has gone on and why I am so thankful that Heavenly Father knows what he's doing with the mess our lives so often make.

For years now I've been praying and pondering about why my dad seems to be so unhappy living the gospel he so vehemently preaches. Then, on Tuesday morning of last week I awoke to some very special and sacred thoughts and feelings. This doesn't happen very often, so I took it very seriously… probably a little too seriously. In my passion and concern for my dad, combined with some of the buried hurts that I have harbored against him, I came to the conclusion that I was supposed to rebuke my father for doing certain things and to call him to repentance. I was both scared to death and yet somewhat encouraged by this.

After some other great impressions, amazing insights and other spiritual lessons, I determined to act on my feelings to talk to my dad. I told my mom about what I had felt, and though she was unsure and a little scared of the outcome, she knew that I would do what I had to do.

This past Tuesday I finally made it over to the institute where I battled against my worries and fears about what to say and how. I even typed out what I thought I was supposed to say. Looking back now I realize that part of my nerves had to do with the fact that I was barking up the wrong tree—spiritually speaking.

Anyway, I knocked on my dad's office door, he let me in, and I proceeded to tell him what I was prepared to say. I got emotional in trying to talk to him, something I didn't really want but could feel coming on anyway. As I read through my rebuke, and did so claiming spiritual promptings to do so, my dad stopped me and in a very worried tone started telling me that I was going about this all wrong. I had figured before hand that he would say something like this, so I tried to push back and asked him just to listen, but he became even more emphatic. I began thinking it was hopeless and that he just wasn't going to listen to me, when he finally got through my defenses and I let him teach me what it was he was really trying to say.

The Lord's pattern for receiving revelation is something that I have been familiar with for some time. Even still, in my passion to "do the right thing," I forgot to study things out, listen more carefully to the Spirit and follow the Lord's pattern. My dad told me that, though he was very thankful for my concern, he was concerned that how I was going about sharing this was indeed against the way that has been decreed by the Lord's servants. His words began to sink into my heart, and the peace that I had been searching for, but never actually found in my zeal to talk to him, started to fill my soul, and I knew that he was speaking truth.

I was a little embarrassed, and even somewhat concerned with myself when I realized that I had taken my impressions down a road that was not ordained of the Lord. My dad and the Spirit taught me a great lesson that day. I learned that, though we may be right about someone or something and be impressed to know those things, if we do not follow the pattern of revelation and stewardship that the Lord has shown, then we are not in fact following His will.

Those of you like me who, though familiar with this pattern, need a reminder as to what it is, let me explain. Each of us has different roles and stewardships which we hold and maintain. Roles of father, mother, bishop, teacher, prophet and many others are some that we may hold one of, or several of simultaneously. The point is that, though we may feel impressed to say something to someone else, unless they are under our stewardship we cannot receive revelation for them. A son cannot rebuke his father in his role as the father, for that is not how the Lord does things. A son CAN and should share his feelings with his dad about something that causes him concern, but never rebuke him. That is just as wrong as me going to Pres. Monson and saying that I have had a vision for the Church. It just doesn't work that way. Obviously, you can tell that this hit home to me.

So, to wrap this up I want to close by thanking Heavenly Father again for being patient with me and cleaning up the mess that I made of his generosity. And second, I want to refer to two scriptures in the Doctrine and Covenants that speak directly to this issue of revelation. Thankfully, I get the chance to teach them to my dad's students this coming week while he's on vacation. I know that I'm the one that needs them more than they do. See D&C 9:7-9; and D&C 11:6-22 (every verse in those sections is fantastic, but I wanted to focus in on those that talk about the ways by which the Spirit is felt and what qualifies our impressions and acting upon them).

The Strait and Narrow Path

The Strait and Narrow Path

I mentioned briefly in my last post the differences in the paths that are followed when striving to live the restored gospel. Some experience great joy and draw ever nearer to Christ in thought, word and deed. Others, though apparently striving along the same path, experience frustration, doubt and fear in greater measure than the happiness promised to those sincerely doing all they can.

So what makes the difference? Is the path they are trying to walk somehow not the same path?

No, and yes.

The plan of happiness, or plan of salvation for God's children, is chronicled throughout scripture in abundant detail. Modern prophecy and revelation have sharpened our understanding of the plan and painted a lush and vibrant picture of the pathway to eternal life. The detail and variety described in the restored gospel lends itself to being understood by every personality type and personal perspective known to man. The simplicity and straitness of the way as taught in scripture are meant to guide us through our lives toward the promise of eternal life and exaltation in the highest degree of celestial glory.

As in all things, the key difference in how we each follow the path, in either joy or frustration, depends upon our personal agency and perspective. Heavenly Father desires each of us to come unto him through his Son, but he cannot and will not force us to do so. He will even go so far as to grant unto men according to their desires, so that he may righteously and fairly judge us based upon our own choices and the condition of our hearts. This is important to note when we look closer at the way of the strait and narrow path.

The strait and narrow path is what is most often referred to in the Church as the way by which we are to return to live with Father and Son in glory and eternal joy. The many likenesses and metaphors used to describe the strait and narrow path lend themselves to a strict and unyielding course we are to follow if we desire to reach a glorious end. The scriptures are quick to mention that many will fall away because of the straitness/strictness of the way, warning us that we must stay within the bounds that the Lord has set or suffer the consequences.

Such language is meant to inspire humility, obedience and determination to endure to the end and get the most we possibly can out of the experience. However, just as common a reaction to the vastness of the requirements is feeling overwhelmed and even depressed—definitely not feelings that are heavenly inspired. What doesn't help much is the frequent experience of gospel instruction that emphasizes the dogmatism of the strait and narrow instead of the delights of discipleship. Such instruction is generally not intended to be such, but walking the fine line between conformity and charity is not an easy task.

I believe that much of the difficulty in bridging the gap between frustration and joy in walking the strait and narrow lies in how that path is viewed. That is what I meant in that the path is both the same path for everyone, and yet the path is simultaneously different. It's all a matter of perspective. I've put together 2 illustrations that depict what I think the main difference of perspective regarding the strait and narrow looks like, in the hopes of shedding new light on the path.

As far as I can remember during my formative years , the way in which the strait and narrow path was described was something like the diagram on the right. The little separations in the line represent a sort of step-by-step process of obedience and ordinances. Personal transgressions create tangents in the line, and repentance brings you back to where the tangent took place; and in some cases further back on the path than where you left (depending upon the transgression). The path is marked by prophetic counsel and sacred scripture (the word of God/iron rod). The end goal is celestial glory and perfection. The atonement makes getting back on and staying on the path possible, while personal efforts (agency) are what determine the outcome. There are many more details that could be used to describe the nuances of the path, but I believe that this description is generally accurate and something we can all identify with.

So, what's the problem with this depiction? Doctrinally this is correct as it relates to the basics of what we must do to inherit celestial glory. But, though correct, I do not believe it to be complete. The first issue that stands out with this diagram is that the path of progression appears to be linear and predictable. The fact that there are prescribed milestones in the path is sure, but is there only one right sequence in which me must reach these milestones? No.

What I mean is that each of us have specific strengths and weaknesses that factor into how and when we reach specific levels (if you will) of spirituality and conversion. We must meet certain requirements to be baptized, receive other ordinances and make specific covenants, but we are not required to all be on the same level of understanding, humility, kindness, patience, testimony, etc to be considered sufficiently worthy to receive them. As long as we meet the base requirements and are judged as worthy to receive by the Lord's anointed servants, then we are permitted onward.

The key in my stating this is to show that a linear path is not as complete in showing the way as something more true to the nature of God. As we read, His course is "one eternal round," and His purposes are eternal. Though the end result of living according to the gospel law is celestial rest, that is not the ultimate goal. Our Savior, perfect Exemplar and Master is the central point of the gospel. Through Him we will be made whole (perfect), and it is His image that we must strive to have reflected in our countenances. If Jesus Christ is the true center of our striving to follow the strait and narrow path, then the path takes a different view altogether.

The words strait and narrow are interchangeably defined in the dictionary. Tight, constricted, rigid and confined are all used multiple times to better define these two terms. Taken out of context, it is easy to see how these can be discouraging to would-be followers. Yet, though meant to weed out those unwilling to bend their will to God's, it is not meant to discourage or alienate the willing disciple. Looking further at the definitions of strait and narrow in context with the ultimate goal of becoming like our Savior, the words focused, true, singular and targeted emerge as viable similes. Let me paint a picture using the spiral diagram shown.

Each of us begin walking the strait and narrow path quite some distance away from our target of becoming like Jesus, but the longer we walk in faith the closer we get to the target. Put differently, Christ is not just a destination – He is the focus. He is the center, the culmination, the zenith of the gospel plan, both in doctrine and example. It is His image we strive to have in our countenances. We cannot become such a being without truly knowing the Master inside and out. As you look at the spiral you can see that, though still very much narrow, it circles around and around the focal point, bringing the follower ever closer to the center from every possible angle. True disciples of the Master will not only strive to know His doctrine, but they will seek to incorporate every last aspect of His life into theirs.

The possible comparisons and doctrinal parallels with this spiral view of the path are nearly endless. The one point that I believe is the strongest qualifier of such a visual is that of how the differences in the path provide such differing views of the end goal – and those who journey with us. A linear path typically does not afford as detailed a view of the goal as does a circular path around the goal. A linear path also does not provide as much interaction with the sphere of influence of both the goal and those striving along the same as does a circular path.

In other words, with Christ being the center and the ultimate goal, each of us will begin to take on the traits and abilities of the Savior the longer we remain in the strait and narrow path. Those characteristics are enhanced by the light of Christ and made even brighter by the Holy Ghost. Our own striving to live like Christ expands His light and influence, providing beacons of light and hope to others, no matter their position on the path.

Becoming like Christ in the strait and narrow also has the effect of enlarging our hearts and capacity for kindness and love. A natural by-product of the path should be a reaching outward to others because of the joy we feel in the process of becoming. As I have stated in previous posts, the entire focus of the Church, the family and the gospel plan is to seal the family of God together in eternal bonds. These bonds are not meant to just be priesthood bonds, but bonds of love, joy and deep cherishing of the relationships we have formed.

Walking the linear path does not afford such influence and emphasizes more the individual efforts needed for salvation rather than expanding those into the becoming like the Savior and one with all around us. The spiral path requires, as does the true purpose of the gospel, that we share our lives, our hopes, our dreams, our insecurities and our fears with those closest to us. In this sharing of our lives we find the greatest joy and love, because doing so is also our greatest act of selflessness. On the flip side, if we withhold our true selves from those around us, no matter how flawed and goofy we are, that is the greatest act of selfishness we can commit in this life. Eventually, all things shall be made known upon the roof tops, and the secrets of our lives will be shouted out for all to see and hear. How much better will it be if those closest to us already know about these things and can love and support us through even the most difficult and vulnerable of personal tragedies!

I wish to close this post with a thought about the life of Christ and how He did exactly that with His life that I just mentioned. Children have a natural aversion to strangers and seek shelter in the protection of their parents. The light and countenance of the Savior was such that children—and adults—flocked to Him. Some came seeking miracles, others came with questions. But the children came because of the love and joy that radiated from Jesus' countenance. He shared His table with disciples AND with sinners. He shared not only His teachings but His entire being with all who sought Him. His very presence inspired peace, love, joy and unity. The greatest miracle Jesus performed outside of the atonement was the miracle of His example. He is the Master. He is the focus. It is His will that ours is to bend to meet. That is why I believe that the strait and narrow is bent around He who is the center of all things.

Be Ye Therefore Perfect

Be Ye Therefore Perfect

“Be ye therefore perfect…” (Matt. 5:48; 3 Ne. 12:48) Nothing tends to intimidate members of the Church more than these words, especially since they are repeated in every major canon of scripture except the Pearl of Great Price. In fact, many scriptures in this same vein of scope and directness do a most effective job of putting the fear of God into the saints—in one way or another.

And well they should… the scriptures that is. History has proven time and again that, unless the word is strict and immovable, men will distort or simply ignore lesser counsel. The plainness of the word of God as found in scripture, both ancient and modern, is already prostituted far too often—even in its current purity and strength.

So, why does it sound like I’m adding to the already bleak picture that many tend to paint for themselves through the gospel lens? Because, like so many, I have spent much of my life struggling to conform and comply with the apparent rigidity of gospel doctrine and law. In those struggles I have found both great blessings and immense frustration; blessings on the one hand because the “Lord [is] bound when [we] do what [he] say[s]” (D&C 82:10), and frustration on the other because of the weakness of my flesh and the fiery darts of the adversary.

It is this frustration that so easily gets carried away into depression and despair over the straitness of the way. Satan is brilliant when it comes to straining doctrine into dogma, commandments into constrictions and discipline into dictatorship. He does so through his own whisperings, telling us that the way is too hard and that our efforts will never be enough, and many other subtle, nearly undetectable lies. It is this frustration that I would like to address by providing some possible insights into the command to be perfect.

The Savior’s command to his disciples as referenced in Matthew 5:48 to be perfect has been discussed many times throughout the history of the restored Church. The point most often made when analyzing this verse comes when the Matthew reference is compared to the Savior's reiteration of the same to the Nephites after His resurrection. The notable difference is that the pre-resurrected Lord refers to being perfect “even as your Father which is in Heaven is perfect,” while the post-resurrected Lord includes Himself along with His Father when referring to the perfect example to follow. This important difference sheds critical light onto the meaning of perfection intended by the Savior.

Jesus Christ was, is, and will ever be the only man never to commit sin. If it were not so then he could not have performed the atonement, and we would be lost forever. The distinction I wish to make is that, though sinless, the Master did not refer to himself as perfect until after his atoning sacrifice, death and resurrection. This is because sinlessness does not equal perfection. I repeat – sinlessness does not equal perfection. It is an essential part of perfection, but it does not signify the whole of what perfection is meant to be. That is where so many good people of the church begin to miss the mark as they equate the two as being the same. That is also where much of the frustration with ourselves under the seeming tyranny of perfection/sinlessness is fostered.

Let’s break this down a little further to help clarify some important points.

1. Every child of Heavenly Father has need of the atonement of Jesus Christ to be cleansed from sin to have opportunity to inherit exaltation. As we read in both the Book of Mormon and the D&C, “…the Lord cannot look upon sin with the least degree of allowance;” (Alma 45:16; D&C 1:31) for “no unclean thing can enter the kingdom of heaven.” (Alma 11:37) Thus the supernal need for Jesus Christ and his atonement.
2. The definition of perfect in the dictionary is broad and very insightful. Exactness is a main theme in the definitions provided, but completeness and wholeness are just as equally cited in defining perfection. When the command to be perfect is understood in light of these defining terms, combined with the insight found in the pre and post-resurrected Lord's exhortation to be perfect, a more perfect (ha ha) picture emerges. Perfection as it relates to our lives is an eventual state of wholeness or completion. Jesus, though sinless in mortality, was not perfect until he had reached the consummation of his purpose and done “all that he was commanded to do.” That incredible, unfathomable burden of atoning for all mankind was something that Jesus had to do to fully come to know each of us personally. That is what makes him the only One who can be both advocate and judge, because He has become one with each of us. For us to become perfect we need to become like Jesus, in that our perfection is not complete with sinlessness alone but with the consummation of our earthly missions. We must not only strive for being purified and clean but doing all with our lives that the Father intended, which is not something that can be done alone.
3. The atonement was both all-encompassing and completely individualized. We must accept Jesus as our personal Savior, and yet He is not our savior alone. He saved us all—every last soul that chose to keep their first estate. The atonement was not meant to work in the silo of our own lives but as part of the great plan of happiness for all of God's children together—unified, sealed, one. You and I cannot pay for each other’s sins, but we can, and must become saviors on mount Zion by sharing the gospel through the way we live our lives, through our testimonies and our love. We can only become like Jesus insofar as we give of ourselves to others, for Father didn’t just plan on saving individuals; His plan was for his family. We can only be made truly perfect when our lives, our hearts and our souls are knit together as one with each other. This essential truth is reiterated as we look into the mirrors on opposite sides of the altars of the temple. We can see forever into our past and future. Our hearts and the hearts of those on both sides of the veil must be turned to each other. We cannot be saved without our family—Father’s family—those long since past and those yet to come.
4. It can be easy to get discouraged when thinking that, since perfection is more than just keeping the commandments and becoming clean from sin, we can only fulfill the measure of our creation and our individual missions if we live some ideal, nearly impossible life path without straying therefrom in the least. Satan strives to enslave us under the tyranny of what we should have done better, or what we could be like now if only we had followed some different path. It is true that blessings once lost cannot be regained by doing over something we might have done better. But dwelling on such mistakes or reacting out of fear in similar future instances is not ordained of God. Such self-doubt and fear is contrary to the Father’s plan of individual agency. Is there an ideal way to live? Sure. Does that mean that not following some pre-determined, paint-by-the-numbers way to live ideal voids us of eternal happiness and reward? NO! Agency, both our own and that of others often makes following a prescribed ideal impossible and even unwise. The key is not the dogmatic following of some check-listed, step-by-step life pattern, but the continuous bending of our will to God’s and becoming like He who has saved us all. The condition of our hearts is the ultimate deciding factor—something that is infinitely more merciful, and yet not something that is part of an easy, carnally influenced life course. Alma 5:14 and many other verses in that chapter refer to the condition of our hearts as the measuring rod of our perfection. Faith, repentance, obedience and enduring to the end are musts, but marking these off of some sort of requirements list while not having our hearts filled with charity for our fellow men will not gain us the kind of heavenly reward we hope for. In summary, the Lord knows our hearts and will judge us according to what we have become, not merely by the order in which we have done things.
5. Perfection is a joyful process, one that is best understood and enjoyed through vision that is focused on Jesus Christ and love for all around us. Everything we experience, be it difficult or pleasant, is meant for our good. As long as our eyes are single to God’s glory, our vision will be bright with hope, our hearts full of love and our countenances full of light. Constancy in such joy is the hardest choice we make on a daily basis, because Satan’s ultimate goal is to ruin hope and joy. Sin kills joy, proving “wickedness never was happiness.” Frustration also kills joy, but frustration is more a product of choice rather than circumstance. The more we strive to live the gospel in joy and love the harder things will seem – for a while. As we navigate the strait and narrow path, we come to see more and more that the way is not a direct linear path before us, but rather one eternal round centered on the Savior and his life. The longer we walk the path in joy and love the more like the Savior we become. If we are walking the gospel path and not experiencing joy then we are not walking the right path.

There is a lot more that I could say about these concepts, but this post is already much too long for a traditional blog. So I will stop here. Suffice it to say that I have felt very impressed by the pattern of perfection that the Savior has left for us to follow. Though the way may contain many trials and sorrows, the path itself is one of true joy. That joy cannot be achieved by walking the path alone, but by sharing our lives with our family and friends. They are the source of true joy, for with them we are able to practice living as the Savior lived, and thus hopefully become even as He is.

The Pattern of Gospel Living

The Pattern of Gospel Living

Who
What
When
Where
Why
How

These questions are very important as they pertain to our living and implementing gospel principles and ordinances in our lives. Yet sometimes the order in which we prioritize them is not the most effective, nor is it the most beneficial to our happiness in living the gospel.

If you could prioritize these in the order that makes the most sense for living a righteous life, what would it be?

Here are my thoughts:

Why
• The Why is our part, our agency and the condition of our hearts. 99% of the gospel plan in mortality is complete. It’s just that 1% of our own will that makes all the difference in the world. If our Why isn’t based upon faith in Jesus Christ, hope in the blessings to come and charity/pure love for the Savior, His gospel and complete submission to His will then the Why becomes our condemnation. The Why is the most critical because it determines the rest of what we do and the blessings/consequences of our actions. We may be very regimented in our scripture study, our church attendance or our paying of tithes, but if our hearts are mired in ritual, steeped in pride, fearful of failure or concerned with the outward appearance of our actions then our obedience is as “sounding brass and tinkling cymbal.” If our actions and obedience are based on faith in, love for and deep devotion to our Savior and His glory then we have found the mark. And with that love for Jesus Christ comes an almost immediate and overwhelming love for all God’s children, for without our brothers and sisters joining us in the true happiness that is the purpose of Father’s plan we are as “lone [men] in the wilderness.” Which leads me directly to the next point.

Who
• The Who is two-fold: The first and most critical Who is Jesus Christ, the center of the gospel and the “author and finisher of our faith” (Moro. 6:4). The second encompasses every last one of Father’s children, whether dead, alive or yet to come to the earth. We are all an eternal family, and the whole reason for families, the church organization and gospel ordinances is to bind our hearts together and seal them up as one in the eternal worlds to come. Happiness is not possible in the silo of our own lives. Our sojourn on Earth requires that we open our lives and our hearts to everyone around us. As we strive to become more like Jesus Christ—our Why—then the Who becomes ever more essential; for as we become like Him, our countenances shine with His light and we too become saviors on mount Zion. That is where we find our eternal happiness – in becoming like Jesus together by sharing our lives, testimony and gladness with those of our past, present and future.

What
• What we do relates to the doctrines, principles, ordinances and covenants of the restored gospel. They are key in revealing to us the nature of God and are essential parts of the path to becoming like Jesus Christ. They are meant to keep us straight and true on our journey to becoming like the Savior and provide protection from the fiery darts of the adversary. The What is somewhat interchangeable with the How, depending upon what gospel topic is in application. Often as members of the Church we concern ourselves so deeply in the doing of the What that we forget the Why and the Who. The worst thing that we can do is lose sight of the Why and the Who in the doing of the Whats of the gospel and miss the mark completely. If the What isn’t driving our becoming through showing us the life and example of our Savior then it has become as dead to us, nothing more than a code of ethics and laws that cannot of themselves save us from ourselves. And in many cases, the Whats become a tangle of frustration and a block of stumbling to us when they become the focus.

How
• The How is directly related to the manner in which gospel ordinances are performed and covenants are made. Priesthood is an essential part of the How. Proper authority to administer the saving ordinances is foundational to their efficacy. The How is part of why the restoration of the gospel and the Lord’s Church was essential in the latter days, providing again the authority to act in God’s name and to bind in heaven that which is bound on earth. The How is sometimes interchangeable with the What, especially as it relates to ordinances. Certain principles and doctrines stand alone without accompanying ordinances, in the which case the What takes precedence. Suffice it to say that the How and What are absolutely essential to the Why and Who, but they do not nor cannot supersede them, and of themselves are incomplete in providing the means to eternal exaltation. If it were otherwise, the Pharisees and scribes would be as viable of candidates for exaltation as Enoch, Moses or Paul.

Where
• The Where most often relates to the proper location for performing holy ordinances and for the congregating of the Saints for instruction and the unifying of faith. The Lord’s house (temples) and His houses of worship (chapels, seminaries, institutes and other dedicated buildings) are sacred places in which some of the most edifying worship and instruction can take place. The mysteries of the kingdom are often revealed to the Lord’s prophets in the temple. Our joining together to partake of the sacrament in dedicated buildings is a blessing and privilege and is essential to our salvation and becoming like the Savior. Yet as history has shown, the Where does not supersede the previous components of the gospel in importance as the Lord’s purposes have been and will yet be accomplished in the most insignificant and lowly of places. Just remember that the manger, the garden, the cross and the tomb were not the miracles. The Man was.

When
• The When holds last place on this list because, though still important, it pales in comparison to the rest. Agency, law and the Lord’s tender mercies ensure that all men will receive perfect judgment, and with that perfect opportunity to prove where their loyalties lie. However, this statement does not diminish the importance of the scriptures when they state that “now is the time for men to prepare to meet God” and that the day of our salvation is today. The more we are able to do now the better. But the When will not overshadow the condition of the heart, nor Jesus Christ, the “keeper of the gate['s]” ability to judge in complete righteousness, “for he employeth no servant there.” (2 Ne. 9:41, both quotations)

Who Can Stay the Lord's Hand?

Who Can Stay the Lord's Hand?

I find it amazing, though I probably shouldn't by now, how the Lord moves in very precise and coordinated ways. I awoke this morning with my parents' family on my mind, which is something that has been happening often lately. Quickly my thoughts about them turned into much stronger impressions—spiritual impressions. I've spent the morning pondering these feelings and impressions and trying to do my best to follow what it is the Spirit wants me to do. It's definitely not as easy as I used to think it was on the mission. Doing what Father wants and coordinating it with the agency of those it affects is a delicate process at times, but nevertheless an essential part of the learning.

The interesting part was when I called my mom to ask if I could meet up with her and my dad after lunch to talk. She informed me of some of the struggles going on in the household right now and it confirmed my impressions. That made me feel much more sure of my need to be supporting my family and move forward with the things I've felt.

I wish I had more time right now to go into what is on my mind, but there is still too much to do with sooooo little time. I'm just in awe at what happens when time and energy are spent caring about people and trying to do everything possible to make a difference in their lives. The plan really is about people.

Head First Into the Unknown

Head First Into the Unknown

So, I've finally taken the plunge into the blogosphere. It took quite a lot of persuading for my wife to finally get me into Facebook, and now I've again followed her lead into the wonderful world of blogging. Funny how I'm the one that works at a web creative agency and she's a stay-at-home-mom... looks like we've gone about things in reverse!

I'm looking to update this with a real meaningful post soon and start diving into the kinds of topics that I'm most interested in. I am more than open to comments, and until the viewership of this blog grows (fingers crossed) I'll be stuck commenting on my own posts--which isn't that far off from me always talking to myself as it is! It's both sad and comforting to know that I have an audience in myself.

Here's to psychosis. Long live the blog!